Thursday, July 21, 2011

Small Things Can Create a Big Impact.....

Several weeks ago, I had lunch with a girlfriend of mine. I've known her for years, but openly admit, I'm not a sharer when it comes to incredibly crappy things going on in my life. When I asked my ex for a divorce, I had been unhappy in the marriage for 5 years prior and really didn't tell people I was miserable. So, when I saw my friend for lunch, I finally shared some stuff that I'm going through.

I've admitted in this blog how it's difficult for me to ask for help, but it's also very difficult for me to share things that make people feel uncomfortable (it really is the last thing I want to do to my friends). However, I'm at a stage where I can't hide things anymore. It would be like having a 1000 pound gorilla in a room and not acknowledging he's sitting right next to me.

She listened and I know she felt uncomfortable, but I wanted her to hear things from me and not other friends (she's that good a friend where I'd feel terrible if she heard things about me from anyone other than me). She was incredibly supportive while together and we hugged goodbye when we went our separate ways.

A week later I got this unexpected card in the mail from her letting me know she was there for me. I was so touched by the card that I cried. It really is such a great bright spot, that it has made my month.

I have the card and plan to save it in the same place I have my college letters from friends and love letters from boyfriends. It just has the same place in my heart as these items.

I consider myself very lucky to have this person in my life. Thank you Lauren for being my friend.

5 comments:

Brian Miller said...

smiles. what a cool friend...

we all need them...

Sara McCarty said...

Oh, I love this post. I feel the same way about uncomfortable topics. But you're exactly right, sometimes you just need a good friend to talk to. Good friends might not understand, but they are there for you no matter what.

Liz Mays said...

I'm glad you took the chance and opened up. The results were so worth it. :)

Yankee Girl said...

You are so lucky to have a friend like that. I have no idea where I would be in my life if I didn't have a wonderful friend like you have. They are priceless.

Anonymous said...

Wow! Lucky you having a friend like that.