Thursday, December 17, 2009

Question of the Week.....

Thursday, December 17, 2009....

I've decided to make Thursdays my "Question of the Week" day because I always have questions and am always interested in people's answers.

This Week's Question: What is the best advice you've received?

Over the years I know that I've received advice whether I asked for it or not. I admit to being stubborn when unsolicited advice is thrown at me and even if I dismiss it, I do mull it over and typically use it (without telling the solicitor of said advice).

Recently, someone gave me a great piece of advice. I was commenting that I was applying for a position, but mentioned the company had the position as both full and part time. As much as part time appeals to me, I need to apply for the full time one.

She said this "LMB, you could never apply for the part time one because you care too much and work as though you're in a full time position".

She's right and things were much easier when applying for the full time position. No hopeful delusions of working part time because I know I would make a part time position into a full time one.


Anonymous said...

Choose your battles wisely.

Helps daily at work.

The Peach Tart said...

Good luck on the full-time job. I usually listen to others' advice but then use my own gut to determine if I should follow it or not.

Herding Cats said...

"Feeling overwhelmed? Drink a glass of wine."

or "This too shall pass...."

Badass Geek said...

Best advice? "Above the line, below the line."

In regards to financial problems, everything above the line is the essential things you need to survive. Everything else doesn't matter until you get to a point where you can manage it.

Anonymous said...

Three pieces of advice come to mind:

"You don't have to want to do it. You just have to do it."

"Everything always takes longer than you think it will."

And the boring, writing-oriented one: if you're writing a story in the past tense, then want to move into a flashback sequence, use the past-present a few times to establish the time change for the reader. (Esoteric? Yes. But I use it just about every day.)

Anonymous said...

Oh and Hubby says, "Fake it until you make it."

I don't think he's talking sex....

Matty said...

That makes perfect sense.

As for me, I didn't follow the best piece of advice I was ever given. And I'm stuck with my employment decision for the rest of my working days. Enough said on that.

Dan said...

Do what you enjoy. No amount of money makes up for doing something you aren't passionate about and don't enjoy.

Truer words were never spoken. I've had jobs that paid tons of $$$ but which were literally killing me. I've had jobs that didn't pay a living wage but which were a joy to get up to go to work each morning.

So I'll leave you with the follow on the advice up top: find something you enjoy and then find a way to make enough money to live doing that. (Surprisingly, for many people, it is harder to find something they enjoy than to find a way of making a living from it once they find it.)

P.S. In answer to you question, I plan to expose my new job tomorrow - and there are no computers involved per se. {*grin*}

Melanie's Randomness said...

Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer.

Actually, the advice you gave me about my dream post about listening to your dreams that was great advice. Thank you. =)

New England Girl said...

I don't really listen to a lot of the advice that is given to me. I'm super stubborn and my selective hearing kicks in, whether I want it to or not, when someone is trying to tell me the best way to do something or what I should hope or wait for. My grandfather used to often quote Thomas Edison to me, though, when I was complaining about tasks or responsibilities and it stuck with me: "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."

Optimistic Pessimist said...

good luck! i have received tons of good advice lately. too much to list!

Laurnie said...

I also have "This Too Shall Pass" as my favorite advice. My grandma used to say it all the time, and its funny how much I say it in my head now that she has passed away, and it calms me down.

Im new to your blog, I think its great!

Monkey Man said...

Don't give your money to a hooker and expect her to return with your cocaine. - Best advice ever.

That corgi :) said...

Let go and let God (great advice but I struggle to heed it)


McGillicutty said...

My Mum always gave me good advice, so much I can't think of it all... probably "hold your middle and ring fingers together and your hands will always look elegant"!!!!
Another is spend time reflecting... that's a great one!!!

Green-Eyed Momster said...

I can't think of anything right now but I could sure use some good advice right about now.


Unknown Mami said...

Great advice.

This was something that I got from a book, but basically it's to stop using time as an excuse. For example, I'm too old to learn to play the piano. The truth is you are going to get old no matter what, why not get old doing things you enjoy.

rxBambi said...

My mom always said "don't do anything illegal, immoral, or fattening"

Bob always tells me to "count to 333" because I tend to react without thinking and it always gets me into trouble.

Erin P said...

Interesting question, interesting responses. I can't think of a specific piece of advice, but I've learned, over the many years my husband has been my best friend, that HIS advice, when followed, is always the best advice and always works out better than whatever I might have done without it.

The Sorority said...

I have been the recipient of many good and not so good pieces of advice - here are my favourites:

- Win the war, not the battle (which is sometimes hard to do with a husband but I try)

- And this too shall pass

- Pretty shoes always make you feel better

- never go to bed angry - a rule that Wilson and I follow

- marry this man - my mother to me after she met Wilson. That is probably the all time best piece of advice that I have ever recieved.

Leslee said...

Oh dear, I could not give just one! Here are my offerings:

* If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't Complain.

* Cheerful & Stupid - It will get you alot further than Smart & Angry .

* Get busy living or get busy dying ~

SillyStud said... careful that the underside of your tongue doesn't get caught in the braces on your front teeth...

otin said...

My mother said, "Stay away from women, they will only screw up your head!" Well, she was right! LOL!

Helen McGinn said...

That's good thinking. Please let us know how you get on....karmic thoughts, my friend. xx

Helen McGinn said... you post on MM? If you don't know what I mean, it's ok, I just had a deja vu moment and recognised you as someone.....

CatLadyLarew said...

Always wear a paper bag on your head whenever you do something stupid. Needless to say, I go through an awful lot of paper bags.

Miss_Nobody said...

My dad's an advice generator.Anyone need some?(did I say its free?)
There you go,I wanted to be good,I ended up being honest :P.
How are the holidays?Your ear okay?

Alex said...

my best advice that I have ever received is "shut up" hahahah!

Kelly said...

Good luck on the job!!

Best advice... still waiting for it!

Jaime said...

my dad always has good advice, though i'll deny ever saying that... and the thing i remember most is him saying "you're stronger than you give yourself credit for." i wanted to strangle him at the time for all the "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" garbage, but it's true...

TesoriTrovati said...

My father always says...
"Life is not a dress rehearsal"

We only get one chance to make or break ourselves and we can't sit on the sidelines and let life pass us by. Just jump in and do, be and live and love life to the fullest, each and every day.

Thanks for inspiring me today!
Enjoy the day!

Little Ms Blogger said...

Jules – I imagine that would.

Peach Tart – I do that too. Often I get conflicting advice on the same situation so I listen to it carefully and go with my gut.

Herding Cats - Did you know there is a brand of wine called Herding Cats?

Badass Geek – I like that one. It makes it easier to define what you really need to survive and what you could live without.

Notthatkindofgirlblog – 1st piece of advice makes me think of exercise – I’ve lived through the 2nd piece of advice; and 3rd piece is good. Practical is always most useful.

Jules – God I hope not – his advice is similar to “dress for the job you want, not have”

Matty – Ouch. That does hurt. I’m going through that now.

Dan – Very true. I’ve heard, do what you love, the money will follow.

Melanie’s Randomness – only in business. In your personal life there is no reason to torture yourself. About the dreams, it has helped me out a lot.

New England Girl – LOL. I am too. My boss used to say something similar – “a problem is really an opportunity in disguise” I used to grumble.

OP – do you ever follow it?

Laurnie – Thank you and your grandma’s advice is pretty true.

Monkey Man – and if you live in Stamford CT and your neighbor asks for her help with her monkey, hang up the phone and let her call the authorities.

That corgi – That’s a very tough one. It is hard for people to let go and forgive.

McGillicutty – Of course I just had to put my middle and ring finger together and your mom was right, I do look more elegant and if memory serves me, I think all my Barbie dolls had hands like that.

Green-Eyed Momster – Sometimes, getting a hug is much better than receiving a piece of advice.

Unknown Mami – I like this one. I’ve never heard this one and it makes sense.

rxBambi – Okay, your mom’s advice was pretty funny. Bob’s advice is priceless. You can take back your thoughts, but you can’t always take back your words and the reaction a person can have to them.

Erin P – You two must think a lot alike or he’s incredibly in tune with you. I found when I first got separated, many people told me not to worry I wouldn’t be alone. For me, that was the stupidest thing I heard as I just left a 15 year relationship. I realized the people that said this to me felt uncomfortable alone and were only projecting their fears onto me.

The Sorority – The war one is true, but so hard to remember when in the battle. The shoe advice cracked me up and your mom is a smart lady.

Leslee – Having a great attitude makes life easier.

SillyStud – LOL. Very true, but I haven’t had to use that one in years.

Otin – NOT. We’re wonderful. You’re just misguided.

Helen – I will when I hear something.

CatLadyLarew – LOL. Okay, I love this one.

Miss Nobody – An advice generator can be good or bad depending upon the situation. Holidays are good, but so much still to do and my ear is better. Thanks for asking.

Alex – LOL I’ve been known to give out that piece of advice.

Kelly – There definitely is a lot of crappy advice out there.

Jaime – both good pieces of advice and both very true! Although, putting that advice to the test, sucks!

TesoriTrovati – Very true, but wouldn’t it be great to have a do over once in a while.