Thursday, April 23, 2009

Visit with Mom

Thursday, April 23, 2009.

My mother is in a nursing home with Alzheimer's. Some days she recognizes you, others she doesn't. She has reported giving birth to twins recently and her newest tale is how she lived on a farm before getting there. Conversations can definitely be priceless.


This morning I got up and started to notice from my training and my skin care regime (100 Day Goal). It was just one of those days when you walk out of the house and you hair and makeup come out perfectly. You feel great about yourself.

I visited my mom prior to the quarterly care meeting regarding about her. I wasn't sure if she'd be happy or cranky, remember me, but I never expected the following:

me: Hi Mom

mom: You're so fat!

me: Thank you

mom: No. Really, what happened to you. You're fatter than me.


I laughed it off and just kept talking and asking different questions. Although Alzheimer patients live in their own world, they come full circle to the beginning of any conversation and today let me know I was fat.

I found out later, my mom confused me with my very skinny oldest sister. However, this leaves me now wondering how good is my new skincare regime?

I could tell from the conversation with my mom she thought she was much younger, which means my sister was in her early 20s and I was just a toddler.

I believe she meant to say "You're Phat" and that's the story I'm sticking with.

7 comments:

Optimistic Pessimist said...

My grandmother moo'd (like a cow) at me once when I bent over. She's supposedly of sound mind...so at least you're not sure if your mother was really talking about you. I know for a fact my grandmother meant to moo at me.

Little Ms Blogger said...

marathoner 81 - Ouch. Of course you can't say anything,but I don't know what I would. I think I'd be speechless and say thank you.

kk said...

this sounds like a conversation I'd have with my (perfectly healthy) mother.

It follows the "you have a pimple" and "what are those pants" conversations.

On a serious note, she totally meant PHat.

Jess Riley said...

I think she meant "Phat," also.

(Regarding the next book? Hmmmm...my best answer? A looong time. LOL)

rachaelgking said...

It was DEFINITELY P-h-a-t. Fo shizzle. <3

The Sorority said...

I concur with everyone - PHAT it is!

Also, my Aunt June pulled a grandma/mom on me. She would often say, in mixed company and in her outside voice that she heard that Weight Watchers was having a sale and that I should think about it. Then would tell me that my hair cut did not suit my face and lastly that my pants made my ass look too big.

Aww family - what would we do without them!

Little Ms Blogger said...

kk: Isn't it amazing that the definition of mirror is "mother". Merriam Webster needs a bit of updating.

Sorority: Maybe your aunt didn't know how to make small talk or was out the day they taught the art of conversation in school.